Stop holding yourself back
"Your mindset is what you grow into. Mental creation always precedes physical creation. Who you are in your head is who you eventually become.”
A system of tools that we've found helpful in supporting our clients through developing strategies for change has been NLP or neuro-linguistic programming. People can become confused by the language developed and used by some practitioners and while processes are very effective it has been called by some a "pseudo-science”.
Given advances in neuroscience and the way we know the brain is wired here's a fairly straightforward way to understand what NLP is and how its processes can be helpful. This is based on observation, experience with the tools and study.
Neuro: The way the brain takes on information through all five senses and makes sense of it through deleting, distorting, generalising and filtering before storing it in smaller "chunks” in the conscious and unconscious mind for future reference.
Linguistic: As a result of the processing, we create an internal representation including pictures, sounds, feelings, smells and taste and this representation is reflected in the language we use in our internal and external dialogue.
Programming: The combination of our internal representation and our internal dialogue creates suggestions and messages that are sent directly to our unconscious mind which become the "standard operating procedure” a set of unconscious programs that govern our day-to-day life.
These unconscious programs create a set of beliefs which, when combined with our internal emotional state at any given time, drive our behaviour and actions.
Our behaviour creates results that reinforce our beliefs and continue to drive our behaviour. If you are getting all of the results you want in your life then you are one of the few - congratulations. However many people find that they aren't achieving their goals and don't know why, not realising the underlying reasons - unresourceful behaviour, limiting beliefs and repressed emotions.
This combination of underlying reasons also has an effect on our physical body and nervous system. Can you think of a time when you had to do something you didn't want to do or didn't think you could and remember how you felt? Headache, tension, physically sick? The body's chemical messengers - neuro-transmitters - relay your thoughts and emotional state all around your body and nervous system and create the physical reaction.
So whether it's self-doubt, lack of confidence or low self-esteem; limiting beliefs (I can't ... I'll never ... It's too hard); phobias or repressed emotions that are holding you back and quite possibly having an impact on your health, relationships and overall performance, then it's time to make some changes. As is often stated "change your thinking, change your life”.